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Wishing Life Away

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I’ve been very fortunate to have gone through the Entrusted Bible Study three times now. Two of the three years, I’ve learned from Betsy in-person as she’s taught moms at a church in the Chicago suburbs.

Each week I come away from the study with a phrase that sticks out above everything else.

I’m not always quick to put the lightbulb phrase into practice like I should, but some weeks I can’t help but ponder and act on it.

One phrase that convicted me deeply is “Wishing my life away.”

For most of my life, I’ve been wishing for the next phase:

I wished to get my masters

I wished to be married

I wished for kids

I wished to stay home with kids

I wished for more kids

I wished for kids to sleep through the night

I wished for more freelance work

I wished for less freelance work

I wished for all the kids to be in school

I’ve learned something about myself in the past couple months between the Entrusted Bible study and a sermon series at our church: I feel like I continually need something big happening in my life or I need to be planning and preparing for something big to happen – I need to have a focus. I can’t enjoy where I am. I need to do something like rearrange the house, go back to school for a second masters, or make an out-of-state move. I spend so much time longing and wishing for something new that I don’t stop to appreciate where God has me right now. And when I think about it at a deeper level, I’m convicted even more because the place I am now is the place I’ve been wishing to be!

Case in point: My husband and I prayed earnestly for children, especially after we had three back-to-back miscarriages. Now we have three kids and I’ve spent more time than I should have anticipating when they’ll all be in school. Our youngest is three and has a speech delay. Because of his speech delay, he qualifies for preschool through our district where he receives speech therapy. He’s now in school five mornings a week. Our oldest is in first grade and our middle is in pre-kindergarten three full days a week. I now have three mornings each week that I’m kid free. I didn’t think it would happen this soon and while I enjoy having these mornings to myself, I do regret spending more energy and time wishing for this phase than I should have.

In Ephesians 5:15-16, Paul warns the people of Ephesus to “be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil” (NASB). Am I making the most of my time? In short, no, I’m not. I spend too much time wishing for the next phase or challenge instead of cultivating a grateful heart and appreciating where I am – even in the mundane things like driving all three kids to school, picking up the youngest three hours later, and then picking up the two oldest three hours after that. That can feel like a rut really fast. But you know what? When I was single, I wished for the time when I would get to drop off and pick up my kids from school. And now I get to do that. Even the monotony of my weekdays are fulfilling the longing my heart had so many years ago.

James 1:14-17 says, “But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust. Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death. Do not be deceived, my beloved brethren. Every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow.”

Is it wrong to wish for a new phase of life? No. Is it wrong to plan and work towards something? No. The problem occurs when that wishing or planning becomes the focus and obsession. When I allow myself to become obsessed with and carried away by my lusts – my plans, my wishing for something new – I am sinning.

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For the sake of my husband, kids, family, employers, and most importantly, for the sake of my relationship with God, I am determined (though I know I will fail at times) to be grateful. I look at my list of wishes from the past fifteen years and marvel at how God has worked to bring about His will in my life. Not all my wishes have come to fruition or have happened how I had hoped, but many of them have come about and the phase of life I’m in right now is one that I prayed for earnestly for many years.

I’ll still have fun thinking of how I can rearrange the house and I’ll enjoy the increasing freedom I have on weekday mornings, but I’m not going to focus so much on wishing for a new phase or focusing on a big life change in place of appreciating the phase God has me today. I’ll never find contentment and rest doing that.

Posted on April 25, 2018 and filed under Building Your Faith.

Thinking Time: A Daily Key to My Sanity

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Recently my kids and I were eating lunch when a neighbor boy knocked on the patio door. My six-year-old jumped up from the table to slide open the door. “Hi John, we’re eating lunch right now, and then I have a quiet time, but I can ask my mom if I can play after that.” I was thrilled that my son knew our daily “Quiet Time” was a non-negotiable part of a day at home.

I have required my sons to rest after lunch since they were born…. For several years it was a nap, but when they began to give up naps, I still needed them to rest so their siblings could nap, and so I could have a moment of peace and quiet.

Betsy talks about this habit in “Tips: Practical Ideas for Building Unity and Order in Our Children”. She recommends the following guidelines:

  • When they’ve outgrown naps
  • A precursor to quiet time
  • No toys, may have music or book, but nothing is best
  • It’s just time to meditate or think (and you get a small break)
  • 30-45 minutes long (who knows, they might take a nap)
  • I timed it so I could begin dinner and have the house calmed down for when David arrived home

I have taken the heart of this idea, and modified it slightly for our family. We have it right after lunch, because I want a quiet home in which to put my youngest down for a nap. Also, if the older ones fall asleep, I need them to do it early in the day rather than later! My kids are 3, 4 1/2, and 6 right now. Even though my boys share a bedroom, I have all three of them in different bedrooms for the rest time. I say, “It’s Quiet Time!” and the little feet run up the stairs. How did I get them to do this? I have made a deal that the first one up the stairs gets to pick the room they rest in. Being in my bed or the guest room is really exciting for them...hopefully that lasts a while! I make sure they’ve gone to the bathroom, make sure they have books, tuck them in, and set a timer for about 40 minutes. If they didn’t hear the timer go off, I open each bedroom to see who fell asleep, and tell the boys they can come back down to play. During the school year, we do school all morning, then have lunch, then quiet times. My boys know that after Quiet Time they can watch a show if we don’t have any additional school work to finish.

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Was it difficult to initiate this practice? Since the transition from napping to no-napping can be hairy, I think having a Quiet Time helped. However, I have to be honest that there are those moments that the little ones want to escape from their rooms because it is “Just so looooonnngggg, Mom!” I did set the timer for shorter periods as I was first training each one to help with this. Also…. I put a childproof handle on one of the doors. If a child has a hard time staying in his room one day, he now knows he will be in the room with the handle the next day! Even so, there have been days in which the door is repeatedly kicked, and correction is needed. All disciplines take training. You may have a frustrating week setting the standard, but you will be blessed for YEARS after it has been established! Remember, “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.” (Hebrews 12:11)

This daily practice has been such a blessing to me. My boys are energetic and loud, and it brings me a little sanity to have them each in a room by themselves, focusing on books or their thoughts, so that I can organize mine! I usually start out the time finishing up a few housekeeping items (like responding to emails or making calls), and end it by having time with the Lord. What I like about this is that when my kids come down from their quiet times, they see me having mine too! I wish I was a morning person and could clock in a good quiet time before I have kiddos jump into my bed, but it’s just not me. Instead I try to play worship music  in the mornings to start my day out inviting God in, but I need to wait to have focused time in the Word. Sometimes I need to get my focus back on God in the middle of the day, and having my quiet time then really helps me. During some of the tiring pregnancy months, I have even snuck in a quick nap. On weekends, my husband and I use the time to catch up on our to-dos, debrief on the church service, or just talk (sometimes it’s nice to do that when you aren’t tired from a whole day with the kids. :) ) Regardless of how you use the time your children are resting, we mamas need some free moments!   

I also love the training this is providing for my little guys. In a world so inundated with constant communication, I am thankful they are learning to be still. In addition, I think this has helped instill a love of books in them.

One day my boys were being very good, and I wanted them to understand that a daily quiet time is part of a life in Christ, not just part of your childhood, so I let them read Bibles (all at their own levels) on the couch while I read mine. (Of course I told them this was a special circumstance, and it would not be the norm!)

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Do you have a similar practice or routine in your home? If not, can you see it blessing your daily sanity?

Posted on August 16, 2017 .

The Practice of Thankfulness

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I have truly enjoyed the beautiful weather this fall… although I will admit that the holidays catch me off-guard after such warm, sunny days!

As I flipped the calendar to November, I decided I wanted to do something intentional each day of the month to thank God. I also wanted to create a visual reminder in a prominent place in our home that would enable us to keep on praising and thanking our incomparably generous God. 

I quickly cut out a tree trunk and branches with my oldest son. Next, my middle son and I took 150 coffee filters and dipped them in dyed water. We laid them on cookie sheets to dry. Finally, I cut out leaf shapes from the dried coffee filters. Each night (or morning) we share something we are thankful for with each other. I write the item on a leaf, and tape it to our tree.

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Imagine my surprise when I walked into one of my best friend’s homes, and she was doing the same thing with her family! She had laminated leaves last year, and they kept their color wonderfully! Using these leaves, and traced handprints, Holly created a similar thankfulness tree.

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I love encouraging the practice of thankfulness. Giving thanks on Thanksgiving Day is wonderful, but doing it for a whole month--or a whole year--tills the soil of of our hearts to trust God. There are many ways to teach and model thankfulness, and this time of year is carved out to do so. Let’s take advantage of it! We are even asking our kids to say three positive things about a situation whenever they complain! I think this one needs to stay well after November!

A few years ago I wrote a post about creating a family photo book recounting God’s faithfulness to your family. My children love our book, and they look at it frequently, so I wanted to share the post again.

One of my favorite ideas from the Entrusted class was to make a yearly Top 10 List at Christmas.

Betsy and her family always pause from the opening of gifts and the enjoying of food to recount God's faithfulness to them.

As a family they brainstorm the top blessings from the year. It is a tradition worthy of imitation. Months ago, I purchased a discount voucher from Picaboo, an online photo book retailer, and the expiration date was quickly approaching. I realized none of my normal "photo book creation milestones" were impending, so I asked God for what I should use the voucher for. (Don't you love the promise we have in James 1:5, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.” ? As a mother I am sooo reliant upon this truth!) Anyway, He brought to mind his words to Joshua and the Israelites in Joshua 4:1-7:

When all the nation had finished passing over the Jordan, the Lord said to Joshua, 'Take twelve men from the people, from each tribe a man, and command them, saying, ‘Take twelve stones from here out of the midst of the Jordan, from the very place where the priests' feet stood firmly, and bring them over with you and lay them down in the place where you lodge tonight.’”

Then Joshua called the twelve men from the people of Israel, whom he had appointed, a man from each tribe. And Joshua said to them, “Pass on before the ark of the Lord your God into the midst of the Jordan, and take up each of you a stone upon his shoulder, according to the number of the tribes of the people of Israel, that this may be a sign among you. When your children ask in time to come, ‘What do those stones mean to you?’ then you shall tell them that the waters of the Jordan were cut off before the ark of the covenant of the Lord. When it passed over the Jordan, the waters of the Jordan were cut off. So these stones shall be to the people of Israel a memorial forever.”

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I knew He was calling me to set up "Stones of Remembrance" for my children. Right now it doesn't quite fit in our family's budget (or my “time budget”!) to do one of these books every year, so I decided to recount the 20 greatest blessings of the first five years of our family (we were established in 2009). As I sat down to write/type/create, thankfulness washed over me. You see, we've been going through some difficult trials as a family this year. At moments, my husband and I have even battled the lie that we've been overlooked by God. It was so good for my heart to remember some of the ways God has provided for and protected us. I'm thrilled to recount his blessings in a format my children are so excited about. I want them to know how faithful our God is, so when the storms of life come, their feet will be set on the firm foundation of Jesus Christ. Here are a few excerpts from our book:

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If this sounds like a tradition you’d like to recreate, consider collecting your "Family Top 10” at Thanksgiving, and presenting the book at Christmas. You could also collect the list at Christmas and create it the next year.

May recounting God’s blessings be ingrained in us all!

Posted on November 16, 2016 and filed under Building Your Faith.

"Hashtag, I'm the mom!" Free printable

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This month’s just-for-fun freebie is a reminder for those times when your kids want to get you on the merry-go-round. You know that frustrating cycle of arguing, sassing, back-talking, whining, compromising, or whatever other trick up your kid’s sleeve that somehow gets you to backtrack on what you just said?

 

Betsy calls that getting on the merry-go-round in her Entrusted with a Child’s Heart class, and cautions you NOT to go for a ride.

Heidi really hit it on the head when she said in her recent interview that she has to remind her daughter, “We don't argue. I am not a kid; I am your mom.” Of course we are not harsh dictators or unjust authoritarians. The aim of our charge is love, and the goal of discipline is to produce the peaceful fruit of righteousness. Sometimes healthy discussion is welcome and necessary. But sometimes, you just have to look your kid in the eye and say, “Hashtag, I’m the Mom!” I’ve found myself saying it so many times lately, I’m tempted to put it on a t-shirt!

 Until then, I’m hanging up this little printable in my kitchen. Among all the notes and pictures and homework sheets screaming at me from the fridge, this one is to remind me that I am in charge, and it’s for my kids’ good. We are responsible for raising good citizens, not people who think we’re awesome. It’s our job to make the hard calls (and by the way, who warned us that this was motherhood?! It was supposed to be all fun and snuggles all the time...isn’t that how the diaper commercials framed it?!) It’s not easy, but it’s necessary. Someone has to be the mom, and God has said you are it!

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I know how creative ya’ll are...why stop at a 5 x 7 on the fridge? This download has the mantra in lots of candy colors, and I can imagine it as a greeting card of encouragement, a gift tag or a bookmark. What will you do with it?

Download the Free “#imthemom” Printable Here! 

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Posted on October 26, 2016 and filed under Building Your Family.

Using Entrusted Scripture Memory Cards After You’ve Taken the Class

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I love the Scripture Memory Cards that were included with my Entrusted Notebook! They were helpful and adorable! As I was purging for my recent move, I came across them. I knew I wanted to keep them, but I wasn’t sure how to utilize them after the initial memorization practice. A few fun ideas came to mind that I’d like to share so you can play them with your kids!

 

  1. Let your kiddos quiz you in the car! As moms we are often trying to make the best use of our time.  I know many a mom that uses the drive to Awana or school to quiz her child on math facts or Bible verses. What about reversing the roles a bit? Give the packet of verses to one of your children. Have them give you a reference, or just the first three words. See if you can finish the verse correctly. My son had a BLAST testing me, and it reinforced the verses for him. It also provides some extra reading practice.

  2. Play “Memory” with the the Memory Cards. Place all the cards face down in classic Memory fashion. Take turns selecting 1 card at a time. If you or your child knows the verse, say it for the group, and keep that card. If you make a mistake, place the card face down where you found it. On your next turn, try to say it correctly, and keep the card if you do. The one with the most cards at the end of the game gets a prize! Allow your kids to sing the verse to you if it helps them. Maybe you want to sing your verses too… :)

  3. For older children, guide them in putting the verses in the order they appear in the Bible. Use the Table of Contents in your Bible to help them.

  4. Separate the verses into categories. You can let your kids create the categories, or give them some ideas to start with. Examples: Wisdom/Practical Advice, Encouragement, Blessings of Obedience, etc…

  5. Select the verses that you and your kids really need to meditate upon, and tape them to bathroom mirrors to be read while they are brushing their teeth. The kitchen sink is a great place for verses for moms. Make sure you change it frequently so it doesn’t slip from your mind.

You can also create your own memory cards with your kids! Write verses you are focusing on at home (or that they’ve learned at Awana or school) on index cards. Cut them in half if you can fit the verses on that space, and paste each card to a small rectangle of scrapbook paper. Laminate them if you can. This way your cards will have a fun pattern, just like the Entrusted cards. Buy a cute container to keep all of your cards in, so you can go back and play with old sets. Play the above games with your new cards to get God’s Word in their little hearts! They are sponges--let’s use that for God’s glory!

Posted on September 14, 2016 and filed under Building Your Faith.

Betsy's Tips: 5 Things I learned as a Young Mom

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I took the Entrusted with a Child’s Heart class when my firstborn (and only at the time) was 18 months old. How I stumbled into the class I’ll never remember, but this I know for sure: God had been saving my seat. 

Before I became a parent, I thought babies were like accessories. Sweet, cuddly little accessories. Once I had a baby, of course, I quickly figured out they were a little more complicated!

Remember the first time, just around when your baby starts crawling, when you tell them “no no” in a gentle coo as they’re heading for the edge of a stair cliff? They pause thoughtfully in their path. Then they look you in the eye, flash you a drooly grin, and start crawling again straight for the very thing you just told them not to!

I took the Entrusted class at a pivotal time when my focus as a mom had to shift from snuggles and story books to the hard work of loving discipline and character building. There is so much I could say about how Betsy’s curriculum changed my thinking about my role as a mother and encouraged me in the job I had to do.  

But on the lighter side of the class, there was a ton of practical advice! One of my favorite days in the class were “Betsy’s Tips” - specific, attainable ideas for having an intentional and joyful home.

I put several in my pocket as a young mom, which are all in practice today at our house. Here are 5 favorites I took to heart:

1. Make a big deal of birthdays and holidays

When I feel tired or overwhelmed, it’s easy to want to skip some of the balloons or hoopla of an occasion. But I think Betsy was right about this one. These are our kids’ memories, and they only get one childhood. I want them to remember that we celebrated them, and I want them to want to come home for holidays as adults because they’re so special. That does NOT mean expensive. But whatever I can do to mark an occasion, I believe it’s worthy of the effort. Betsy’s tips say:

  • Decorate the house; sometimes put something special on their bedroom door or a garland of lights in their room at Christmas.
     
  • Have lots of family traditions: “white elephant bingo,” “egg cracking,” gingerbread houses, etc.

2. Thank-you notes

It’s important to me to teach my kids the value of saying thank you. To do so is to obey the golden rule of treating others the way you would want to be treated. How crummy does it feel when you give a gift that goes unacknowledged? Betsy had clear expectations for her kids, to teach them the responsibility of gratefulness: 

  • If someone was kind enough to give a gift or do a service for us, the least we can do is take the small effort to write a note to them.
     
  • Includes birthday party gifts (Family saying: “It’s not yours until you have properly thanked the person”); not allowed to use the gift until the note is written.

If your child struggles with writing, you can still teach them to show they are thankful. Why not try a video thank you?

3. Hugs and Kisses

Non-negotiable in our house (among our immediate family). My son went through a phase recently where he didn’t want his brother or sister to be allowed to hug him. Nope.

Betsy says:

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  • Hug and kiss your kids every day so that it becomes second-nature to them. Don’t let up even during the Junior High years. Train them to hug and kiss you too, every day!

 

 4. Scripture Memorials

  • Mark meaningful verses with names and dates of friends and relatives, for a promise claimed, a prayer, or especially someone’s testimony verse, which is the verse that made them first believe the gospel.

Our version of this, at our house, is a prayer jar filled with popsicle sticks. Each stick in the jar has something specific written on it that we are trusting the Lord to answer. We keep it on the kitchen table so the kids can choose a stick to pray out loud at meal times. When the prayer is answered (even if the answer is no!) we write the date on the back and it moves to the Answered Prayer Jar in my office. And then we celebrate the Lord’s faithfulness by eating a popsicle!

5. Mission Trips

Hopefully writing this on the internet will give me accountability for the goal! My kids are all under 10, so it isn’t quite time yet. But I firmly believe that there is great wisdom in this advice from Betsy:

  • Make it a goal to have each child go on a mission trip before they graduate from high school. It will forever change their perspective on the world and help them develop a love for people.

Thanks, Betsy, for these and so many more!

Posted on August 17, 2016 and filed under Building Your Family.

Teaching Your Children Self-Control

Sometimes I write about areas in which God has given me wisdom and success… other times I write about topics that can cause me frustration and bring me to my knees. Today’s topic is the latter. I have three boys. Three young boys. Three exuberant, energetic, full-of-personality boys. They are wonderful. Yet, often this excitement for life results in a lack of self-control. I don’t want to excuse it as “boys will be boys.”

(Please know I am not saying self-control is only a male issue. Lord knows I haven’t mastered it either! I am just writing about the ways I experience this deficit and how I am targeting growth.)

 I want to steward their hearts, making sure they are being prepared to sacrifice their desires for the glory of their Savior. 

I recently wrote a post about the importance of Character Training as explained by Betsy in the Entrusted study. Self-control is just one area we are targeting, but it is an important one in my house!

One reason I am writing this post now is because Christmas is right around the corner. Echoes of “I want that! I want that too! And that!” can be heard from many a child as they thumb through a toy catalog or pass by a toy aisle. Blessing our children with great presents can be a wonderful picture of the wise men’s gifts for the newborn King, but we do need to be intentional about communicating that. We also need to make sure our children don’t get everything they want. It is important for children to learn to delay gratification and deal with disappointment. No parent wants that to come on Christmas morning, but those lessons do need to come. I think we can prepare our children for self-control and sacrifice before Christmas morning arrives.

I keep an online wish list for each of my children. When we go to a store and they really want something, I offer to place the item on the list when we get home if they remind me. Often they forget; if they remember, we add it together. If we have a few minutes we review the other items on the list to see if we can delete anything. Most times I remind them, “You won’t be getting everything on this list. If you could only pick three things, what would you choose?” It’s interesting to watch to see how the desires change over the course of several months. It affects my willingness to spend money on certain toys. Lincoln wanted a $40 costume for quite awhile. When his birthday arrived, I had no problem choosing that as one of his gifts because he had consistently prioritized it. Other items drop to the bottom as the passing fads that they are. I was incredibly impressed that my almost-four-year-old was able to choose three things from his wish list for his birthday. He acknowledged that he couldn’t get everything, and was happy with what he would receive. We did have to revisit the lesson briefly after he opened his birthday gifts, but it was a quick reminder instead of a drawn-out discussion. I can see the boys are learning to delay their desires. This is one small way I try to teach self-control. Here are a few more:

  1. Tell your kids “No” sometimes! Don’t give them a snack every time they ask. If dinner is in a half hour, they should learn to wait. (Of course there are exceptions to the rule.) Don’t buy them a toy every time you go to the store. Don’t say yes to every request. You get the idea. You’re not being mean, you are preparing them for the real world. When you make a grocery list, have your child make one too. Ask them to write down one special treat they’d like. When they get to the store, they need to stick to that item. You don’t have to do this each time, but it is a good exercise for avoiding impulsivity.
     
  2. Make self-control towers! This one is Lincoln and Ryder’s favorite! I take large, cardboard building blocks and build a tower around their heads. They lay there, wide-eyed and grinning ear to ear. If they move in the slightest bit, their tower will collapse, and they will know they weren’t self-controlled. We giggle a lot with this one, and it is a great opportunity for them to learn to still their busy bodies!

3. Have your child make eye contact or sit still for a given amount of time. Be careful with this one! Too long could be cruel! Your child’s age, personality, and experiences will dictate the time for this one. Start with ten seconds and see if they can hold your gaze without looking away. It is an important life skill! If they are successful, try longer. Next have them sit still (explain the guidelines for that before you begin) for ten seconds. It is amazing how challenging these quick exercises can be. They are good practice for adults too—especially in this fast-paced society!

4. Try a “Kid Fast.” I’m calling it a kid fast because I am not telling you to ask your child to refrain from food. Instead, have them give up screen time for a day, or perhaps only eat things God made for a day. Do this along with them! Talk about the moments that are hard, and pray to ask God for strength with them.

5. Give your child more exercise. Last year, my mother-in-law bought a mini bouncy house for Ryder for his birthday. I bought soft helmets for the boys, and they have a wonderful time jumping around! In this climate, it was a fantastic investment! During the spring and summer, I found great success with taking a mid-morning walk with the boys. We’d do some learning time, take a walk, come back for lunch, and they have quiet times. They were much more prepared to rest because their little legs had worked hard!

6. Give clear directions. Ask yourself if your child really knows appropriate behavior for the given situation. Do they need instruction or discipline?  Remember, 1 Thessalonians 5:14 says, Admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all.  (For further teaching on application of this verse, see Entrusted with a Child's Heart Chapter 9: Committed to Discipline (pages 280-285)  “Sit still” can mean many things. Clearly define your definition so your child can be successful. Make sure it is age appropriate. Take time to model the situation

7. Consider having your child do age-appropriate exercises for behaviors that are not discipline issues. Travis and I noticed Lincoln was interrupting us quite a bit. We retrained him on our “policy” for that. When he continued to interrupt, we instituted an exercise "consequence." Each time he interrupts, he has to do a few push-ups (and then he has to wait to tell us his point). It was very effective and helped him get more exercise!

8. Teach them a verse to memorize. Explain that a fruit of the Spirit is self-control and that God wants to give them success! Review it frequently, and try to fill them with hope! Don’t condemn them for their failures, but help them press on in hope.

9. Pray with them. Lincoln recently had to take a horrible-tasting medicine for four days. He got himself so worked up each time. It was one of those parenting moments that made you want to call in a sub! I realized I needed to pray with him before we started the process. The first time I prayed, I did it after he was already upset. Through tears he yelled, “It still tastes terrible!” We talked about being patient, and doing our part. The next time, I prayed beforehand, and it was much better. Lincoln knew that God answers prayer and God did give him the courage he needed! 

I’m sure there are many more ways to train your children in self-control; this is just a start. For more in-depth teaching on training children, see the following chapters in Entrusted with a Child's Heart:

Chapter 7: Establishing Authority: The Fear of God
Chapter 8: Managing a Child
Chapter 9: Committed to Discipline
Chapter 14: Character Building

Blessings as you train those precious children!

Posted on November 25, 2015 and filed under Building Your Family.