Are you trying to be type A when you're not? I'm speaking to all my sisters out there who have the type A mom and the type A older sister that you are always striving to be like: Shift your lens to look at it as a blessing that God chose to put those awesome people in your life as your mom and sister... but then embrace who YOU are as wife, mom, and friend!
I have those type A role models in my life but when Jesus made me He made me far different from type A. It's something I have struggled with my whole life—trying to match up to or try harder or just make myself be able to do all the things just like my mom and sister. The reality of that looked like a lot of failing on my part and systems that I couldn't make work.
I will turn 40 this year and have finally come to the realization that whatever it is that I am "doing" it has been working for the last 15 years. We have 5 school age kids that love to play sports, need all the uniforms washed for school and sports, need lunches made, important papers found and special creams put on owies. My husband owns a business that has his phone ringing at 3 AM many a morning, or requires working months in a row at times, but he still manages to coach our boys in football. I work at the kids’ school as the K-6th grade art teacher and do hair on the side. We also squish in there serving at church.
Why do I tell you ALL THESE THINGS? ... To say that life is daily. Super daily. All the things get done, children get fed in mouth and heart. The daily-ness of life and the running to and fro? They all happen. And guess what? I don't have a "system!"
So if I can give you a piece of encouragement for your weary, free-spirited heart and creative hands as a mama, it would be to embrace who God has made you to be. I am far from a type A, organized person but I do have things in place that work for me and our family. Here are a few tips for those of you who don't have the gift of organization—from one artsy mama to another.
- Allow others to help you. My sister thinks it's super fun to organize a kitchen cupboard. I have gladly allowed her to use this gift in my home. And I have used my love of decorating to help her in her house. It's a win-win.
- Listing out in detail (on a piece of paper or the notes in my phone) helps me to stay on task and accomplish what I need to each day. It's super basic and sounds silly to share but my list will literally look like this:
5:30 AM drink the coffee and Jesus time
Lunches made and kids to school
Chicken in crockpot
Girls’ soccer practic
Boys’ football game
- Leave the cleaning chores that your kids can do till last. That way when they get home they can "help you" get all the things done. I usually write the chores on pieces of paper cut into strips and stuff them all in a bowl. Then I fill another bowl with silly, fun tasks for them to choose from. This way it makes "chore doing" a bit more fun and produces a lot less complaining!
So take some time this week to look around at what has already been working for you and be encouraged! There may be be some areas that need tweaking or that you need to ask a friend or family member for help with, but that’s okay.
Mamas! Stop comparing and start embracing who God has made you to be. Comparison is the death of gratitude. You are THE mom for the people He has given YOU. Embrace your system even if it's not an “A" system.
Let us not grow weary of doing good,
for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.
So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone,
and especially to those who are of the household of faith. - Galatians 6:9