Bella’s eyes were alight with the joy of knowing she was about to go on a date with Daddy! We picked out her dress, did her hair (curly hair lends itself as an activity in and of itself!) and got her all ready. She couldn’t have been happier, posing for the picture that we would have as a keepsake for years to come.
Spending one on one time with the kids can be near impossible unless you plan ahead and have some intentionality. Mark and I decided early on in our girlies' lives that we wanted to have some concentrated time with each one of them.
I had always heard that once you entered into the world of having kids, you would blink and their childhood would be over. I have found that to be so true! It’s hard to believe that our oldest, Addy, will be 13 in just a few months. All this to say, each opportunity to love and pour into our children is critical in their development and their lives.
Dating your kids is one more opportunity to invest in their sweet little lives. It seems like it would take a lot of work and often I fall back on that excuse but it can be so easy! In the end, the time we are giving to each child alone speaks more to their hearts than we can possibly know.
Here are 4 tips to consider when dating your kids:
1. Plan ahead. I’m not sure about you, but if I don’t put it on the calendar, it won’t happen. Life happens at much too fast a pace and before you know it another week has passed by. Also, by having it on the calendar, it’s something your kids can look forward to as well.
2. Take a survey. Ask your kiddos for ideas on what sounds like a fun date to them. Choose an activity or outing they would enjoy. Every child is different and fun for one of your kids might not be fun to another. As a quick side note...I’m sure some of their ideas involve activities that would break the bank, so give them some guidance as they start brainstorming.
3. GIve them your undivided attention. BUSTED...picking up the phone is a habit! Put your phone down and don’t use it unless it’s an emergency. Your kiddos are extremely aware if you are fully present with them or not. Enter into whatever activity or conversation that might happen; you don’t want to miss a thing!
4. Have fun! Spending time one on one doesn’t always have to be a “teaching” moment. Don’t plan on having a serious conversation for the date; if you do, they might not look forward to their time away with you. Instead, if the opportunity lends itself naturally, than walk ahead in it. There always seems to be moments to teach kids important truths and lessons. However, spending time on a date with your child is limited so be intentional about having fun!
For you, they are simple moments to remember and cherish for a lifetime. For your kids, they are profound moments that will help shape not only their relationship with you but also their own sense of value! And on top of all of that, it’ll be so much fun!