The last few weeks have provided many reminders that parenting is not for the faint of heart. My three girlies have just finished their fourth week of school. My eldest started 8th grade, middle started 5th grade and my little started all day kindergarten! Hard to believe we are four, almost five weeks in! It has been a bit of a rough re-entry into school world; which has then spilled over into our home world.
All this to say, school brings a whole slew of new adventures: drama with friends (oh yes, it can even affect the child who has never had it), homework, papers, lack of sleep, a smidge of crankiness (kids, and yes, even this mama), swim, volleyball, piano and voice into an already loaded school schedule. I’m exhausted from even writing that out! So, with all the adventures school and schedules provide, what does it look like to stay intentional with our kiddos on a daily basis?
One way I have chosen to stay intentional with my girls is by speaking truth and life into and over them each morning before school. I adopted this form of intentionality after hearing a prominent woman in leadership, whom I greatly respect, explain how she did this with her children.
Her backstory for creating this was from Judges, a book in the Old Testament. It’s about the story of Gideon in chapter 6. Here is a quick history lesson.
And the angel of the Lord appeared to him and said to him, “The Lord is with you, O mighty man of valor.” Judges 6:12
And the Lord turned to him and said, “Go in this might of yours and save Israel from the hand of Midian; do not I send you?” Judges 6:14
These verses are important because the angel of the Lord was speaking into who Gideon was going to become. When the angel appeared to him, he was not a mighty man of valor. In fact he was hiding from the Midianites in a winepress, beating out wheat because the Israelites were being oppressed by them. Hardly a mighty man of valor. Yet, God chose to speak truth through his angel as to what kind of man he was going to become.
The story continues on to explain that Gideon would help save his people from the hand of Midian. God showed His miraculous power in this by taking the 22,000 men who were going to help fight the Midianites and bringing that number down to 300 and only then were the Midianites defeated! God spoke and worked through Gideon and the truth of who he was going to become was revealed. He became a mighty man of valor by God’s grace. The story of Gideon is a powerful, real life example of a truth we can apply even today.
I’ve adapted this principle (after hearing from the woman I mentioned, and the story of Gideon) by speaking into my girls according to their needs and things that I see in them. Our children are inundated with outside influences and lies each day from the world we live in. Shouldn’t we as parents be the ones daily setting their minds and hearts right with godly principles and godly character as to who they are and who they will become?
So what does it look like to speak into and over our children? I’m so glad you asked!
First off, there is no exact formula. Every child is unique and you will need to adjust it according to their needs.
Secondly, I incorporate Scripture, godly principles and our hopes and dreams for them.
Thirdly, I have my girls stand in front of me, one at a time and have them look me in the eye and repeat back what I am saying.
My girls were a little awkward when we first started. Okay, I’ll be honest, it was awkward for me as well. However, we pushed through and before long they were wanting to speak back into me. (Talk about melting your heart.) So why not give it a try? You might be blessed in return as well!
Here is an example of what I speak into them each morning... Say each phrase and have them repeat it back to you:
“I’m a child of God.”
“God has a purpose and a plan for my life.”
“I am very special.”
“There is no one like me.”
I’m beautiful on the inside and the outside.”
“He has called me by name, I am His.”
“My identity is found in Him.”
“I will have a heart after God’s heart.”
“I will choose to walk with the Lord today.”
“I will have courage and stand for what is right.”
"I can do hard things with the Lord’s strength.”
“I will try my hardest in all that I do.”
“I will listen to my parents.”
“I will listen to my teachers.”
“I will be kind to my friends.”
“I am a strong girl/woman in the Lord.”
“I will put on the full armor of God.”
“The helmet of salvation.”
“The breastplate of righteousness.”
“The belt of truth.”
"The shield of faith."
“My feet will stand strong and be ready for battle.”
“Mommy and Daddy love me.”
“My family loves me.”
“God loves me.”
“And there is nothing I can do to change that.”
“We’ll be for each other, not against each other.”
We are going on four years of this morning habit before school and I trust and believe what they hear and repeat back will continue to settle deep within their souls.
I hope this has encouraged your parenting hearts a bit. I know for me, it was life-changing to know I was speaking godly truth and principles into and over my children on a daily basis. My heart’s desire is for my girls to be influenced by truth and not by the lies that are fighting against them every day in this world. Although our schedules and routines are full every day this is one way we can capture and reset their minds each morning.
Blessings to you in your parenting journey.